Last month I made an iMovie for my father-in-law for his 60th. It was centered around my growing son’s life. Since Max was born in June, things have been crazy, to say the least. Any new parent can tell you that the transition from childless to parenthood is not always easy. With Max’s complicated birth, and my apparently horrible, child-bearing body, I was sick for months. It was really hard to care for a newborn. Many days, I kept wishing for the next stage to start.
Other problems popped up along the way, and I kept thinking that things were really hard. I carried this chip on my shoulder. I was jealous of other people, all I could think of was sleep, and at night, I couldn’t sleep.
To make a long story short, I made this video for my father, but really I gave myself a gift. I remembered all the wonderful moments from this last year. I was grateful for all the time that Max spent with me, both sets of grandparents, and all of his cousins. He is luckier than a lot of other children.
The big picture of this last year is wonderful. I have a healthy son, a happy husband, and a great support system. Sometimes the minutia of the day get people down: running out of wipes, stepping in dog poop, getting honked at when you are driving. Sometimes it’s the bigger problems that keep people awake at night: jobs, money, health.
As Chuck Palahnuik once said, “You are not your job, you’re not how much money you have in the bank. You are not the car you drive …don’t let the things you own, own you.”
Your successes, but most of all your losses are not what define you. I believe it is the big picture, and it always takes awhile to see it, especially when you are in it. So here is my big picture from last year.